Identity Crisis: Who am I?

Have you heard of the new acute disorder named identity crisis? This disorder may not be that openly discussed topic but it’s one of the major problem in human psychology. In my opinion I think you can also relate to you with this obsessed disease if you are also the one suffering. It’s not something widely discussed but this disorder kills a person from mentally. Some goes to that extreme level that it forces the sufferer to commit suicide. May be a person seems very jolly and happy from outside, but he/she is also affected by this disorder. This disorder is enough to break the backbone of a person and make them mentally ill.

To start with let’s talk what kind of persons generally feels this way? Of course someone who is deprived of what he wants. May be he/she is deprived of love, care and affection and suffers from the evil eye of the society. Some person may be self sufficient in every way but they take the things in such a way that they are deprived. Mostly minority peoples, in terms of religion, class, custom mostly affected by this kind of disorder. Suppose, a person is from a minority of a country, in spite of being middle class he/ she studied in expensive schools, saw people buying expensive things and dreamed the same about him/her, but as he/she cannot afford this life. Moreover, people who are studying abroad or far from family always suffer from these kinds of identity crisis. They cannot adjust themselves not at home and not abroad. These kinds of people are generally suffers from identity crisis.

This identity crisis is truly very acute. It makes a person feel different, think different and also talk different. These kinds of people try to make them adjust with everyone but, finally ends up with none. They are always conscious on how to talk, how to behave and how to present and finally when they are tired of pretending and being someone else they busted up with inner emotions. They feel depressed always. They talk rude and weird and feel the way that no one understands them. They cry hiding themselves. His/her pain is never to shown up but kills the person suffering whole life.

There is no perfect solution for these kinds of disorder until the person gets lots of love and care that he/she feels safe. May be enriching his/her environment can be a better solution. Moreover, may be mediation can help it a little bit. This identity can lead unto a big crisis, but before it becomes a huge problem it should be taken out from the root. If you are suffering from this greatest syndrome overcome it as soon as possible. After all it’s your life and you are the one to make an identity. So, if you have identity crisis try and make a new identity for you which will make you recognize among others. After all, every person is unique on their own way.   
  




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Travel Guide: How to bag pack for a train Journey?


Train Journey is always most relaxed and enjoyable journey you can ever experience. But, as the train journey’s can be long, so you need to pack your bag with all necessary stuffs. I have traveled a lot in India and each and every time I have faced some trouble while traveling. Every time I missed something which is a must have and later it really troubles me a lot. So with my experience I am sharing you few must have which you need to carry while traveling through a train in India. 

A small handy travel bag: The first thing you need to carry is a travel bag which is very handy and you can put all your necessary staffs there. Even while traveling by sleeper class you can avoid hiring a pillow and make the bag your pillow. Sometimes, extra pillows are not available in the train, so your bag can be your pillow which can ensure a nice good night sleep for you. Moreover, you can always keep it by your side, so that while traveling all the necessary things will be by your side.

Phone Charger: Please check if you have packed your charger or not. It might save you in any emergency situation as phones are the only way to get connected to your family and anyone in need.

Make a list of the emergency contacts in a paper: You might forget to take the charger, or your charged might stop working or not any charging point in your berth. Even you can lose your phone. So this list of contacts will help you to call the person in emergency situations. You can get anyone’s phone and make a call if needed.

Carry Medicine: Carrying few medicines for the emergency purpose is a must have. Any time any emergency can come up and as you are in train you might not be able to take any step further. So some emergency medicine like medicine for gastric, headache, tummy ache, and balm should be always with you. Moreover, for girls they should carry cycle pads, pain killer, and birth control pill with them.

Take your Travel kits: Don’t forget to take your important travel kits like your tooth brush, tooth paste, a hand soap, some dry and wet tissues, face moisturizer, face wash, hand sanitizer, hand and foot cream , a small mirror, lip balm. Moreover, for long hair girls carry a hair band which will hold your hair for the time being. As it’s a long journey, so these things will help you to feel comfortable in the journey. It might be a great relief for you. Perfume is a must. As you are traveling for days and you won’t get a scope to take shower so perfume can save you from a bad smell.

Eating stuffs: As it’s a long journey, so the best idea to carry some foods, snacks, water and juices with you. Though in the train always the food is available, but you might not get it all the time and sometimes the lunch and dinner comes late, so it’s better to carry some fruits, dry fruits, cookies, snacks, water and juice with you always.

Carry a sleeper and comfortable cloth: As for few days train is going to be your home, you should avoid jeans and wear something comfortable for wearing. If you are wearing jeans or any head cloths then carry a pajama/ trouser for the night wear.

Carry a light Shawl or light blanket: I know carrying a blanket will be so hard while traveling, but in a train journey it is a must have if you are traveling by sleeper class, because they don’t provide it. But for an ac class thy provide blanket, so you don’t need to carry while traveling by ac class, but I suggest you to carry a shawl at least. It goes really cold in train at night in every season, so carrying a light blanket or shawl is a best idea for you.

Don’t forget to charge your Phone, tab and laptop, camera: Before leaving, never forget to charge your gadget to the full. It is really necessary as you need it as a recreation and both communication purpose. So before leaving just check once if all are fully charged or not.
So, these are all the staff I think you need to check, if properly packed or not. These packing will help you a lot on the way. You might not find some staff important now, but it is necessary as I am explaining from my own experience. So, hope this guideline will help you a lot.


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Insight to an International Student

“Fluctuation in my mind..........
Seems as if all are of same kind.......
It's not that I don't know.........
It's not that I don't care.........
It's something that I can't ignore........
It's something that I can't control.......

It comes as a wave as if from the ocean.......
sweeps away all from something that is in common.......
It leaves me half on something’s behalf........
It knocks me unconscious when I am in subconscious........”

These lines are written by an international student, Sandesh Satyal, from MBA (Masters in Business Administration), B.N Bahadur Institute of Management Science. He was an 1st semester student who came to Mysore for getting an MBA degree for better opportunities in the field of Business. Sandesh, the younger son of his family has dream to go long way in his life and he see this degree as a way to his dream coming true.


24 year old Sandesh used to run a software company back to his country ‘Nepal’ with three of his friends. There he lacked some managerial skills which was necessary for his profession. So, to become an effective manager and gain managerial skills he came to India to continue with his studies. Before coming to India,  he worked as a lower level officer in companies in his country ‘Nepal’. But he has desire to go to the higher position and to achieve that he needed higher degree. “To reach my desire goal, I need to complete my MBA”, he said.


He could choose some other country, but he didn’t want to make a long distance with his family. “India is near to my country. So, whenever I want, I can visit my family. I love my family a lot” he said. On his opinion if he would go to other countries, it might not get opportunity to visit his family frequently. “I saw my friends coming once to my country in 7 years to see their family” he added.


Sandesh is staying in Mysore with four other Nepali guys in a flat. All other guys are from the ‘Mysore University’. They divide all their works equally among them. Everyone has a routine schedule to do their work. They also have routine for cooking, everyone have their own day of cooking food. “I am a big lazy cook. But I have to cook according to my day here” he told. He can cook food, even though he misses their ‘Nepali’ food,Momo.

“Here in the institute we have enough equipment; like projector which we lack in our country” he praised. He likes the standard of education here. He likes the way teacher are giving lecture and teaching lessons. But he is disappointed with the old/aged lecturers. On his opinion, “Some teachers, especially the young teachers are very interactive. They show different types of corporate examples and make the class interesting. The old teachers are very boring.”
Though he praised the standard of education, but he is facing some problems in the institute. “Sometimes teachers and classmates talk in ‘Kannada’ (the state language of Karnataka State ‘Kannada’). Some people think I am local and start talking in ‘Kannad’, that irritates me” he claimed. Moreover, he is disappointed with the behavior administration. “Staff of our department come and sit in the office, take tea and get out at 5.They never listen students complain, nothing. They don’t work on time” he added. He is also frustrated with the food in the food court. On his opinion, the food court doesn’t have variety of food, only one-two items per day they serve.

Sandesh has obsession with bike riding. While he was a child, he told his father about his fascination on bike and convey the interest of learn bike riding. His father taught him riding bike and he started his bike riding when he was at 6th standard. Back to his country ‘Nepal’ he used to do stunt and broke his bike several times. “I am a rough rider. Whenever I ride, no one of my friend sits back, because they are afraid of my speed” he told. He had accidents 2-3 times, but even he is so obsessed on bike riding that he never bothers about it. Although he had accidents but he never had any scratches regarding bike riding and he told it very proudly. Then he shared a story on his bike riding. “One time I rolled 6-7 ft. I just get up, got into the bike and just went. People were so amazed looking at me. Then I went to mechanic and ask my friends for loan. Then I repaired the bike and went home. No one ever knew yet” he said in a delighted way.

Kathmundu guy Sandesh Satyal has planned to move in India. He thinks there is full of resource in India. So, if he gets enough opportunities, he will move in Bangalore after two years. But that will only happen if he gets a satisfying job and salary their otherwise he will be back to Nepal. Going back to his country he is planning to open his own venture.
This MBA guy has lots of dreams ahead his mind. He dreams to have his own venture or manage big ‘IT’ Company. “My dream job is to manage a very very very very very big ‘IT’(Information Technology) company” he expressed with lots of desire on his eyes. He wants to have a big Bungalow, two to three cars, three to four bikes of his choices and a peaceful life, “And also 1 wife, not 3-4, like my choice of cars and bikes. One is enough to spoiling my life” he laughed.

Sandesh Satyal writes poems during his free time. Whenever he feels complication, problems in his life and wants to escape from this, he takes a notebook and start writing poems. He gets a kind of peace while writing poems. “While I write a poem I go into another state of mind. My poems are always related to fluctuation of emotions. I get peace reading them again after writing those poems” he stated.
“I have passion for music. I was a great metal listener. But now the interest diverted to sentimental Hindi songs. According to the time it changes” he said. He also loves playing guitar. He did not learn it from any professionals. He learnt the basics from his friends and later he took knowledge from internet. He pooled, “I find out some tutorials in the internet, I practiced it and learnt how to play.”
Poem lover Sandesh Satyal loves writing poem but he never prefers to take it as a profession. On his opinion, writing poem will never support for his livelihood and it will never help him to get the life of his dream. “Money might not be everything in life, but money is most important part of that everything. So, though I am interested in writing poem, but I don’t want to be a poet” he admitted. So, he just wants to go through the surface, don’t want to go deep into writing poem. “I write some simple poems and I like to do that. It’s a way to pass my free time” he added. He just loves to write poems and post it on ‘Facebook’. People give appreciation and comments and he is happy with that.
Sandesh Satyal is an example of a normal Nepali boy who comes to India to study. He has lots of dream ahead his life and he seems ambitious to fulfill his dreams. He is an ICCR (Indian Council for Cultural Relations) scholar who wants to work as a professional in an organisation and end up with his own Venture. Along with study he has passion for music, writing poems and also reading books which go totally opposite to his academic interest. He chooses his own path of life and walking towards it. He is trying to make a better future for him and ensure a better life for his family.
By Debesree Saha 



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How to Book Train Ticket in India : A Guide from Practical Experience

Traveling in India will never be fulfilled if you do not have a train journey. As India is a big country so the long route train journeys are generally for 2 to 3 days or even longer. So, to cover this long distance plane and train are the only options. Bus and car journey is not possible to cover this long route. There is a saying by the local Indians that, if you really want see the real India travel through a train. And as a witness I believe, everyone traveling to India should travel by train at least for once because it will give you overview of the variety of nature, people and culture within a day which nothing else can give you.
Booking a Train Ticket:
In India, if you want to buy a train ticket for a long route you have to book it at least 1 days prior the journey date or you might end up in the waiting list which does not confirm your ticket. Most of the time I found myself with no tickets while booking one and half month before the journey. But it’s not same for the small route and the medium route. For 8 to 12 hour journey the tickets are available before 7 days. Like from ‘Bangalore to Goa’ I gave traveled by booking the ticket before 3 days of the journey and the return ticket I got just a day before. Actually it mostly depends on the peak and off peak season. But it’s always safe to book it as soon as possible. Moreover, for short route like 3 to 4 hour journey, the tickets are available just before an hour also. So, depending on the route and the season the ticket availability varies.

                                                       Train according to its class:
In India trains are the most demandable transport for the general public. It is affordable to every class of people and a safe port of travel. The tickets and the standard of the train is divided according to its class system. The First class is the most expensive coach of the train which comes up with maximum comfort and facilities with the maximum price range. Then second class which has facilities little less than first class, then 3rd class and finally sleeper class.  Some train there is a coach called general which provides less facility than the sleeper.  Sleeper class and general coach do not have the A/C facility among all the classes. Most of the long route train does not have the first class and general coach in the train as it is less popular among all.




Approximate Pricing:
For a train ticket, the price varies according to the class. The first class ticket costs the maximum and it reduces according to the classes. Here a train pricing given below to have some idea about the train cost -

Price list for Train

Train Name:Karnataka Express
Train Route: Bangalore to Delhi train  
Journey Time: 3 Days max ( appx 48 hours)

Class
Pricing
First Class
5,405 rs
Second Class
3,125 rs
Third Class
2,205 rs
Sleeper
815 rs

Booking System:

Online booking:  Indian Railway has made the train booking service online. You can book your ticket online and choose your berth (upper, middle or lower) according to the availability. Even you can pay by using net banking system if you are a national of India. In online booking you can see the status of available ticket according to different class. For booking a ticket you can go to website ‘irctc.co.in’ and book your desired ticket.

 Booking from the station: It’s the general process of booking the ticket. If you don’t have any access to online or payment gateway, you can simply go to the train station and book your ticket. Generally the booking counter of a train station opens at 10:00 A.M. So, you can go anytime after that and get your ticket.

Emergency / Tatkal Booking: The emergency ticket is named Tatkal ticket in India. You can get the Tatkal ticket just one day before the journey. These tickets are for the emergency purpose. Every train has some coach reserved for the emergency purpose. For getting a Tatkal ticket you have to be in the station as early as possible. May be from morning 5 you have to stay in a line till 10 or more as the office opens for Tatkal at 10 a.m. The Tatkal tickets are being sold on the first come first serve basis. So whoever will be on the first on the line will get the ticket first. It can finish anytime soon. Generally first 10-15 people in the line gets the tickets confirmed. But it can be changed anyway. For getting a Tatkal ticket you have to carry an ID card or passport copy with you. You have to fill a form and submit your id copy along with that while purchasing the ticket. Anyways Tatkal ticket costs more than the original ticket pricing. You might have to pay 100 or 200 more for each ticket.

Booking through the Agent: This is generally applicable for the tourists who do not have much idea of the train ticket. If you don’t have the ticket, but you want to travel urgent then there are agents to find a ticket for you. They generally book the Tatkal ticket by standing on the line for hours in the morning which will save your time and effort to get you a ticket by standing in the line. For booking a ticket through Agent you have to pay more. For getting the Tatkal ticket you have to pay some extra amount along with the ticket price and add some more amounts for the agent according to their requirement.

Booking Train Ticket from Abroad: 
If you want to book an Indian train ticket just click the link below. It will Provide you some necessary information.

http://www.indiamike.com/india-articles/booking-indian-rail-tickets-from-abroad 


Canceling a Ticket:
If you have already booked a ticket but want to cancel the ticket, then you can cancel the ticket before a day of the journey date. But a certain amount will be cut for cancelling the ticket. The amount varies according to different class and the date of your cancelling. Like if you cancel before 10 days of the journey then the amount will be lesser than if you cut it before a day.

Most of the times we plan to travel India without any plan and without knowing any procedure. So, maximum time we fall in the problem of booking a train ticket. Though we want to travel by train but not having any proper guideline it is always troublesome to book a ticket from one place to another. So, this is a guide which aims to help you for traveling in India. Hope it gives you enough Idea while traveling.



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Why Getting Scholarship in Abroad is Always Special?

Studying abroad is a dream of everyone. Not only in Bangladesh but people from every other parts of the world want to study abroad and if it comes with a scholarship then it’s like dream come true.  Why scholarship is so special? The answer is very simple for a general people. For them it’s an honor and a scholar doesn’t have to worry about money. But there are plenty reason which a normal person or a student won’t know and understand until they get it.

 As an ICCR Scholar I had an opportunity to study in India. While applying for the scholarship I had never thought what this scholarship will bring me and had never imagined of getting this scholarship. But after getting the scholarship my life changed in a glance and I was astonished to the factors, what ICCR will bring to me.  So, from my experience I want to put light on the special factors a scholarship has -


Money Factor-
While talking about scholarship, the first thing comes in mind is of course money. Money speaks. In a full scholarship the money you will get is plenty for leading a normal life. If the government is taking your financial responsibility, it means you are tension free. Until you have the scholarship you can lead a life full of fun and liveliness. But if you have a habit of spending countless, then scholarship is not for you. But I can assure you with a proper spending of scholarship money you can study, party and roam around easily. From my experience I have enjoyed ICCR  full scholarship which includes , plane fair for two times , stationary fee per year, accommodation and living cost and even thesis cost  along with the tuition fees which reduces the burden of money.

Security Issue-
A scholarship student gets full security from the government. Each and every action of him/ her is being monitored. As the government of the particular country takes the responsibility, so it’s assures the security of the student. He / she does not have to worry about the security while staying in aboard unless she / he are involved in something illegal. Even the international centers on behalf of government keeps an eye on if there is any security issue what a normal student studying in abroad does not get . It’s like having an invisible guardian along with you all the time.

Effortless Visa and Immigration-
When a student gets a scholarship, the visa and immigration system becomes easier. Generally the embassy processes the visa, so that the student does not have to worry about getting visa. Just give the required document and you are done. Even if its urgency that you got to know about the scholarship late and not much days to start the class, its embassy that will take care of it.


Easy Admission and Accommodation-
In scholarship the admission process is easier. The effort you have to give will be far less than a general student. In India under ICCR scholarship scheme all the scholars’ admission has been done by the international center. The students just have to collect give an application from the international center and collect the study certificate. Even the students don’t have to care about the tuition fee. Every semester we used to see the general students are getting admission, where we scholars were free from all these sufferings.   Moreover, the government takes the responsibility to secure a perfect accommodation for the student after arriving in another country.

Monitoring Educational Progress
A scholar is always been monitored by the government if the progress is up to the mark or not. A scholar can never fail. If the scholar fails in any exam, it takes his/her right of being a scholar. For this purpose every semester a report has been sent from the department to the authority to judge the progress. So, whatever you do, but you have study, otherwise you can lose your scholarship.

Getting Maximum Priority than Others-
 A scholar is always being respected in the society. Scholars are considered as the brightest future of the nation. That’s why a scholar always gets the maximum priority in a society. If you are a scholar, anywhere you go, people will set a priority for you. Especially in the country you are going will also respect you as you are a scholar for them. I remember after getting scholarship, how people from immigration, police and even the university treated me. It was something that will make you proud.

Stay in a Diversified Culture-
An international scholarship student gets a scope to be with various country people. As people for diverse part of the world comes with scholarship as well, so it gives an opportunity to meet and greet people of a variety of countries. You will get to know about other people and their culture. Even it helps for the communication skills. You will get to understand the accent of different country people. So, it’s a source of knowledge about different parts of the world.

Learning the lessons of life-
When you get a scholarship you get to go in a country where you don’t know anyone and anyone doesn’t’ know you as well. Not only the system, but the culture, lifestyle, language, law, mindset of people each and everything is new to you. So, you have to adapt with the situation over there and that will lead you to love the country and accept them. Even you have to adjust with fixed money which will teach you what life in real is.

Become Independent-
If you leave your country physically and don’t take any financial support from your family, than yes; you are independent. A scholar gets to be independent from his/her student life. It helps to build a mindset of being independent and support him/ her. It’s your life, your decision these things can make both positive and negative impact on you. It’s your decision what you will choose.

It’s a Pride-
Yes, scholarship is a pride. It’s a pride that makes you different from every other student out there. It is even an extra point in your CV. This is the thing which will never make your CV stay in the bottom. . It’s a pride for lifetime to think you are special and it gives a positive energy to work with full dedication and achieve a target in your life.

Scholarship is always an achievement in lifetime. If you have that spark on you to do something in life, to get something more, why not try a scholarship that worth your dedication. I have already explained why scholarship is special. So, to go for it or not it’s your decision. But you can think to give it a try. May b you can be the one.


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India is not only Kolkata

India is the 7th largest country which has the second largest population in the world. The country is filled with the greenery of hills and mountains, peaceful beauty of ocean, steamy hot sun burn desert and fizzy cozy white snow. Each and every place is so distinguished with its beauty, culture, lifestyle and language. So, it is not worthwhile to compare one part of the country with another. For its diversified character it’s being called incredible India.


Here in Bangladesh most of the people have a very limited idea about India. Though every year huge number of people travel to India, their perception about India is very one sided. On the name of India they think of only Kolkata. They think the whole India is just the same like Kolkata. The people on the other side of the border are Bengalis and their language, culture and geography is almost similar to us Bangladeshis. Even once Bangladesh was a part of India so we have our relatives staying in India.  So, most of the people in Bangladesh go to west Bengal, in the name of visiting India. The way they behave, the way they talk, the nature of Kolkata people is all we know about India. Even now-a-days people watch Kolkata Bengali series a lot which provides them only a specific idea about India. They don’t even think out of the box.

In my perception people should know more about the country which will increase their level of knowledge about a particular country. Here, I want to mention some points to help you know that Kolkata is a part of India, just one state capital. There are more to know about India. 

Geographically India- India is a country which is a combination of 29 states among which 9 states are bigger than Bangladesh. Moreover, the biggest state In India is Rajasthan which is more than two times bigger than Bangladesh. So, with this estimate we can imagine how different India will be geographically.  One part of it is entirely different than others. Like a part of India Rajasthan; is desert. The camel rides in the desert is a perfect adventure there.  Moreover, if you want to have a walk in the beach and amazing bonfire, Goa, Pondicherry, Kanyakumari , Kerela etc beaches are there to give you the chillness of the beach . Furthermore, Kashmir, Shimla, Manali can give you a wild ride in the snow. Even the hilly greenery of Kerela, Tamil nadu, Kashmir, Madhapradesh will show you how we can touch the sky by from the ground. That’s why people say, if you have seen India, you have seen the entire world.

Here, in the graph below you can get an idea on state wise top 10 geographical area of India:



Language in India: Some people in Bangladesh think India is a country where people talk in Bengali or in Hindi. So, if we know these two languages, it’s more than enough. Yes, these two languages will help you a lot while traveling to India, but that’s not all about India. In Hindustan times it is reported that, India has a total of 780 spoken language but 250 were lost in last 50 years. Moreover there are 86 scripts being used according to PLSI chairperson G.N. Devy. This shows the diversity around the country. While traveling through India I also came to know that there almost every people know more than two languages in spite of their mother tongue.


Culturally India- India is a country of diversified culture. Each states of India have a different food habits. Like north Indian prefers pow vaji, samosa, matar paneer, rajma where south Indian prefers dhosa, idli, sambar, rasam. Panjabi’s can not go a day without meat where Rajasthani’s stay far from meat . So each and every place is a new place to invent. Without exploring it, there is no way to understand what India is.

Moreover, people in different part of India celebrate different festivals. Like, North India celebrates Holi  the biggest and colorfully, where Holi is nothing but a simple puja in South India. Though the young generation now-a-days celebrate Holi but south Indian Holi has no comparison with North Indian Holi. South Indians especially for Karnataka people Dasara is the biggest festival, where on the same time the west Bengal people celebrates Durga puja. Moreover, the Karnataka people are more concern about the cleanliness and hardly can you find beggars there, but if you go to west Bengal it’s full of dirt and dust around and beggars everywhere. Moreover, if you go to a beach in Goa, it’s totally different than a beach in Pondicherry. Goa is a party place where Pondicherry is far calm.


Indian Lifestyle- If I talk about the lifestyle of people that is also different from one place to another. The city life is different than the village life; the life of the hill station is different than the people in the desert. If you think alcohol is available all over India, than you should know In a country like India, they also have a dry state (alcohol free) where alcohol is totally prohibited. Moreover, People in Goa walk late night in the street where in Delhi, people; especially girls are scared to go out late night. They have a lifestyle where some people wear shari and mini skirt as well. Some girls don’t drink alcohol and some are smoking openly.


So, this is India, a country with diversified culture. Before going to India my perception was also like every other person in Bangladesh. But after visiting different places in India I have changed my way of thinking towards India. So, if I can change my idea by exploring the country, I think my article will help you to think out of the box at least for once.
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A journey through hell


It was 8 o’clock at night. It had been an hour I was waiting for the bus. Thought of going home early, but as all the buses were overloaded with people, I could not get in easily. Finally I got in the bus and managed to get a seat. I saw a girl entering in the bus somehow but could not manage a seat. I just looked around and asked her to go and get a seat on back but she hardly could pass that small route to the seat and no man left a way to that seat. Everyone was busy to block her way and she got stuck in that place. So, this is the current situation of bus transport in our country, Bangladesh.

As we don’t have an available train facilities inside the city, most of us have to depend on the bus, especially the middle and lower class people who can’t afford a car of their own. We do have auto and rickshaw as other means of transport, but auto’s are highly expensive and rickshaws are not allowed in the entire route. So, bus is the ultimate solution for transport in the city.

As the population is very high and most of them belong to the lower and middle class, we have to depend on bus. There are hardly few seats in the bus for woman separately, where half of the country’s population is women. The government bus has only 6 to 9 seats which are not enough for woman. So, the woman has to get in the bus and have to stand with every other guy. Standing along with the guys would have never been a problem if there would have been mutual respect for each other’s gender. But what a woman gets while riding in a bus is indirect physical harassment.
You may question me that, “we have heard about physical harassment. But what is that indirect harassment?” To make it more specific, I have named this kind of harassment as ‘indirect harassment.’ Harassment need not to be physical only, with the gesture also a woman can be harassed.

For an example, when a woman gets into a crowded bus, the thing she has to face is getting a seat which guys hardly will sacrifice for a woman. Even the 6 /9 seats reserved for women, they hardly leave that for a woman. Moreover, if the woman does not get the seat, the male around her try to harass her by touching the untouchable parts of her body. From the back and forth they try to harass her in such a way that she would never complain. If a woman somehow complains, there are hardly found anyone who will stand by her.

Moreover, there are other kinds of harassment which is also harassment but by not touching the body part, but by gesture. We can also get a clear picture of man harassing a woman by his eyes and expressions. Some guys try to look at girls in such a way that that embarrass the girl. Similarly, some guy’s smiles at the girl and with different gesture harass the girl in such a way it makes the girl uncomfortable. Even, sometimes guys follow the girl till home and keep bothering continuously. These are nothing but a little example of the incident happens with the girls on everyday bus ride.

Not only indirect harassment, even we have set examples of direct physical harassment in the bus journey. So, a journey by bus is nothing but a journey through hell for a woman which is happening each and every day. There is no protest and no say about it. Now we the women have learnt how to survive in this as we choose to be silent mostly. But do those culprits deserve our silence? Should we let it happen? We are modern women of the century, if we don’t take a step forward, the country will never change and these kinds of harassment will always continue to happen. So, why not take a step forward make a change to the country.

By Debesree


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